Thank goodness it is Friday. The weeks fly by but sometimes the days are long. But I just got done cleaning the dorm and have my laundry going so it is a productive day and good end to the week. Here in college, it is easy to have a really bad day then a really good day. And I feel that is true with anyone during any walk of life. We all are on this crazy emotional roller coaster called life. So how do you respond when someone asks “How are you doing?” or “How is college going?”? Most of us say “good” but truthfully answer the question in our heads. Or if you are a grammar person, you say “well”. But what would you say if you answered honestly?
To be completely transparent, I have had a rough go of college. When people ask how it is going, I feel like I am lying if I say “good”. It is not easy in the education aspect. Or the social aspect. Some days I feel so loved, like I am starting to thrive. Then, I have days were loneliness and anxiety are very real and I call my mom like five times (sorry mom). I know this is normal and all people go through season of this. My new goal is to settle. When you see the word settle, I am sure you think of many different things. Settle as in to settle with whatever is given while it may not be the best option. Or maybe you think about settlers that travel and build in new places. But I think of a house. An old house that creaks and shifts where it is, getting used to the land it is on. That is what I am trying to do. Settle like a house. I was placed somewhere, on land, probably foreign to me. God planned out the blue prints and knew exactly where He wanted me and what the finished product would look like. So here I am in Athens, a new little house, shifting and getting used to the land I was built on. Some days are sunny warm days and other days it is stormy and I have to endure it. We are all little houses, placed somewhere, settling and waiting out storms.
It is so easy to dwell on the hard days or believe they will last forever. But then one morning, you wake up and everything is so much brighter. More people smile at you, you make new friends and get a good coffee. Having to weather those storms really makes you appreciate the small things that bring you little moments of joy. If you can find those joys, then you tend to spread that happiness around. Spread it around to everyone you see! Spread it through all the neighborhoods of people with their settling houses. We are all settling, with our creaky floorboards or doors that stick. No one is perfect and some houses are fighting storms and leaks. But it is not hard spread joy around and help with those leaks and creaks. So learn to be okay with settling. We all do it. It may look different, but it isn’t easy for everyone, no matter how pretty their house is (literally & metaphorically).